Tuesday, January 17, 2006

"Autographs will be signed after the show!"

When I started Loving Lydia I didn't think anyone would read it...I did it for Lydia. I wanted to be able to chronical our journey for her so she would know her history and have a sense of how much she means to us. I continued Loving Lydia because My family and friends were reading it. We are far away from Granparents and Aunts and Uncles who love her but don't get to interact with her due to distance. I'm not surprised by the fact our families read this blog...it's important to them so they can get to know Lydia. I'm also not surprised by the fact many of my friends read this blog. They are overwhelmed daily with news on Lydia as I kinda talk about her a lot. (blush blush) But I understand them reading the blog too because...well, one they care about me and two I think they fear that I'll give them a pop quiz over the material covered here. (Me give a pop quiz...NOOOOOOOOO! Ask my students they'll tell ya about my pop quizzes. LOL) What does surprise me is total strangers read this blog. That was unexpected! I know it's happening though because occassionally I hear from you. Yesterday I heard from somebody and it truely touched me. I won't share their name as I don't have their permission...but they told me they were overweight and never thought they could adopt and this blog has inspired them to go ahead and begin the adoption process. And honestly...that made me cry I was so happy. I remember being terrified at the beginning of this process about my weight and how I would be perceived. And ya know...it never came up. Even during the physical...it never came up. No one ever said to me "You can't parent because you are too fat". It was me who worried about that...never anyone else. When doing great things, the first obstacle everyone must overcome is themselves. I am glad I overcame...


Blogger Wendy said...

I can understand where your other writer is coming from; however, like you I never really worried about the weight thing (even though I am overweight). It has only been recently that I started to worry how the Chinese people would perceive me as most Chinese are smaller in size.
I have laughed with you like with your story about the one toothed woman and wondered if that would happen to me! Seeing you and others have helped me to feel more comfortable about going to China without crash dieting--which I am TOTALLY against. I am who I am.
Thanks to all of those who share their stories as you don't really understand how many times a person could be having a bad day and may find comfort if even for a few moments on another's webpage or blog. I share on mine for myself and family, if it helps others that's great.

Tuesday, January 17, 2006 2:20:00 PM  
Blogger Laura said...

Just remember.......nobody tells an overweight woman she can't parent when she's pregnant. Your baby just came to you in a different way, but you are no less worthy. Lydia's a lucky little girl just as much as you and Russ are lucky parents.
(PS...how DARE you take away her tree!!LOL) She looks so pitiful looking at that empty spot in the corner!
Love you, Laura

Tuesday, January 17, 2006 4:03:00 PM  
Blogger Kimber and Chris said...

I never post comments but those of us waiting read all of your blogs obsessively.

Your love for your daughter and your husband touches me deeply.

Thank you for sharing.
We can't wait till it is our turn.
Anxiously awaiting referral.
May dtc.

Tuesday, January 17, 2006 10:21:00 PM  
Blogger Donna & Joe said...

Hi Lissa,

I too am overweight (have been all my life) and also have fibromyalgia, which causes muscle pain and fatique, among other things. We were just DTC last Friday, but before we started this whole process I really agonized over whether I could be a good Mom. With the combination of the extra weight and the muscle pain, I worry about not being able to keep up with Lauren and play with her down on the floor.

Watching you with Lydia has really helped me to realize that I too can do this. Plus, I really admire your self confidence and wish I had just a little bit of that!

Donna :)

Wednesday, January 18, 2006 4:16:00 PM  
Blogger Andie & Scott G. said...

I am a stranger who reads your blog. I learn so much because you are candid about what your family is experiencing. It also, helps those of us starting out or waiting know there is a bright light of a child at the end of the dark tunnel of the adoption process.

Thursday, January 19, 2006 8:44:00 PM  

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